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Open Letter to my Children about the World of Text

FLASHBACK POST: This was originally published in 2014 on my former blog. My children were 11, 9, 7, and 5 years old at the time it was written. We continue to navigate the world of text together and it hasn’t been as scary as I thought.

Dear Children,

You are growing up so quickly. I have no doubt that I will blink and you will be teenagers, navigating the world of text.

Twitter. Facebook. Email. Blogs. SnapChat. Instagram. Text Messaging.

And everything else “they” come up with in the next few years.

Text is an important method of communication and we rely on it more and more every year. Somehow I have to help you navigate this world and I admit that aspects of guiding you in this new world of text frighten me.

Because text is dead. It lacks tone and emotion. You can see body language or facial expressions. Yet, it is a primary method of communication today.

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Flashback Friday: Exhausted Mommy of an Infant and Toddler

This blog post was originally published in September of 2009 on my former blog. My children were 3 months, 2.5 years, just turned 5, and about to turn 7. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and feeling emotional.

This poast is part of a series of Flashback Friday Posts from my former blog. I hope these posts encourage and inspire those of you who are still in the trenches with little ones.

Overwhelmed with Four

A lot of folks told me that after child number three, I would hardly notice the transition to another child. After all, routines were established and the house was filled with kids and their stuff anyway.

That may be true for many moms out there. But for me, adjusting to four children has been the hardest transition since the rough adjustment I had to motherhood in general.

An infant is hard.

They don’t follow the schedule because they come with their own.

They like to be held and often need to be rocked to sleep.

They have fussy times that aren’t always convenient or predictable.

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Flashback Friday: The Yes, Yes, No Song. Parenting toddlers.

Written on my former blog in June 2007.  My children were ages 4, 2 and 6 months old.  Perhaps this silly idea will help you ease the frustration of a two or three-year-old.)

Songs work very well in this house when dealing with preschoolers. We have one song in particular that I use to diffuse situations with a 2 year old. The need to diffuse the situation is mainly for MOM, as to help control my frustration and prevent it from erupting as anger.

When K was 2, she would often change her mind frequently, driving me mad causing much frustration in our house. The conversation would look like this:

K: Drink in a blue cup, please.
Mom gets the cup out
K: NO NO! Want PINK
Mom switches the cup and pours the drink
K: NO NO NO! BLUE cup
Mom: No, mommy already poured your drink (tried reasoning)
K: NO NO NO BLUE BLUE BLUE
Mom: No, K, I am sorry but you said pink. (again…reasoning)
K: (screaming and crying)
Mom: (on the brink of insanity quite frustrated) No K.

Well, since reasoning was not working and these situations were happening daily, I had to come up with a way to keep my frustration from escalating. I decided I would sing. I need a song to use, so I made one up that would describe the insanity silliness of what was happening.

Yes Yes No
Yes Yes No
I can’t make up my mind.
Yes Yes No
Yes Yes No
I do it all the time

Yes Yes No
Yes Yes No
It’s cause I’m two years old
Yes Yes No
Yes Yes No
It’s hard to do what I’m told
(No, I can’t sing it for you and there is no recognizable tune, just a sing songy chant. And YES, it most definately helps if you are dancing to it!)

Now, K did not respond well to the song at first. It would sometimes make her cry, but it helped me keep my head about me in irrational situations. Eventually, it would calm her as well and make her laugh. It became known as the “Yes Yes No” song. She would actually request it in the car, at the store, and bedtime.

When T was two and first pulled one of these insane, illogical, mind changing situations, I laughed as that song immediately came out of my mouth. Of course, T, LOVED it and began dancing! Those two girlies sure are different!

Feel free to use this song or create your own in order to handle the two and three year old in your life.

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Flashback Friday: Life in 2009

FLASHBACK POST: This was originally published in 2009 on my former blog. My children were 7, 5, 2, and 6 months old. I was tired and stressed out when I wrote it.

This post is part of a series of Flashback Friday Posts from my former blog. I hope these posts encourage and inspire those of you who are still in the trenches with little ones.

Currently….

If there is an end of the rope, I have reached it.

And I hesitate to write it out, but honest emotions are easier to capture in the moment rather than later when you have regained your sanity.

It’s not that I want to remember this time.

Yet, I do. Because someone else will be here one day and I want to say, “Oh yeah, I recall how that felt. You aren’t alone!” But I’ll forget how bad it really was if I don’t record it.

So here at sit at my wit’s end, taking some time to type it out.

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Flashback Friday: No Wonder I am so Tired

FLASHBACK POST: This was originally published in June of 2007 on my former blog. My children were 4, 2, and 5 months old. I miss those little ones, but not all of the work.

This post is part of a series of Flashback Friday Posts from my former blog. I hope these posts encourage and inspire those of you who are still in the trenches with little ones

No Wonder I am so TIRED

I was sleeping peacefully and then the day began.
Earlier than it should have.
There is NOT a 7 on that clock and I see a 4-year-old before me.
Hi, K. Get in bed. 10 more minutes!
Soon T joins us, but at least there is a 7. Put on a show and brush teeth.
I am not even in the shower when they are fighting. Apparently, T doesn’t want K to put her arm in the air. Of course, the louder T protests, the more K is determined to keep it in the air. OK…what to do about that?
Stop protesting, T. Stop bothering her, K.


Get in the shower.
Hop out. Don’t bother blow drying. Get dressed.
Hold you. I want more juice. I am hungry.
I need to get your brother, who is 5 months old, to feed him.
Try to feed the baby. Girls are fighting again. This time I think it is about a book.
Head downstairs. Pull out toys. Try to feed the baby again.
Hold you. I am hungry. When are we eating?
Finish feeding the baby. Breakfast for everyone. I sit down to eat and immediately:
I need more juice. Can I have a straw? She is looking at me! STOP LOOKING AT ME!
Really? Really? Kids truly fight about someone looking at them.
OK – time to feed the baby rice cereal. He is having fun! Glad someone is.


They are now arguing about crayons.
SHARE! (apparently, this is a new concept)
Let’s go play. Baby is happy in the saucer. I play cars for a bit.
My car needs gas. MY TURN! She won’t get off. AHHHH! She hit me. Get off!
I intervene. We try again.
Baby is tired. Got to get him to bed. Uh-oh. He is OVER tired and won’t stop fussing. Pat Pat Pat his back. He is fighting me.
They are fighting each other downstairs.
Go down, settle arguments. Baby is still screaming. Go back up.
(repeat twice)
Finally, he goes off to sleep.
To the basement. Girls are playing nicely! I do a load of laundry while monitoring.

Is that the baby crying? Seriously? A 30 min nap?
Get the baby.
Feed the baby.
Can I have a drink? Can I have a watermelon? Hold you, mommy!
Burp baby. AHHH! He projectile spit ups ALL over the sofa, the pillow, my shirt, my pants, and somehow…the floor too. Man, that is 4 of the 5 oz you ate!
Clean up the spit up. K helps – how nice! Change clothes.
Now, can I get watermelon, mom?
Yes.
Baby is in the jumper. Girls are eating. I grab a bite. I check on the baby and the jumper tray is filled with the other ounce of the bottle.
Uh Oh…this is not the normal amount of spit up. What is going on?
Hold you. Hold you. Play with me. Can you sit here? 

OK, surviving here, but it isn’t even noon.

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Flashback Friday: Embracing YES

FLASHBACK POST: This was originally published in 2008 on my former blog. My children were 5, 4, and 1 year old at the time. I was continually shaping and re-forming my parenting practices. A lot has changed over time, but I still try to embrace “yes” over “no.”

This post is part of a series of Flashback Friday Posts from my former blog. I hope these posts encourage and inspire those of you who are still in the trenches with little ones.

Embracing Yes

I try not to fight battles with my children unless it is necessary. I remind myself to say YES more often than I say NO. This is true even when I feel like saying no because their idea is about to create more work for me…

Mom, can Dad turn on the sprinkler for us?

Girls, you’d have to get bathing suits on.

We’ll wear our clothes, mom. Can we?

(Now I’d rather avoid the work of wet clothing, but I remind myself to say yes…) Continue Reading